Goodbye to this subblog, back to the main blog!
Dear readers, I would like to let you all know that I will no longer be writing on this subblog. From henceforth …
Video Intro
I am so happy that I have finally managed to set up my camera etc for taking videos. Annoyingly, it eventually turned …
Happy New Year 2024! [Video]
After shooting the video, I remembered that I have actually created videos in the past but I was not able to keep …
Let’s talk about…Constantine
You know, I have a family member who has aggressively rejected Christmas, and other celebrations, for perhaps 20 years, where previously they …
Talking about raising the dead
Well today marks the second week in a row when I have not written a post, although I said I was going …
Now what was that profound thing that I wanted to write?!
Well yesterday (Saturday, technically now two days ago) as I was lying in my bed there was some powerful stuff that I …
Why is all this happening at the same time?
Let me first clarify what I mean by my title! There is indeed a lot happening in the world all at the …
Thank you for your prayers: I believe that God has struck my heart with a deep understanding of humility
You know, I have kinda built my Christian identity around the fact that I invest a lot of effort into my faith, …
There’s something about autumn…
…that makes me yearn for human connection. [I initially wrote this post over a month ago on the 25th September but I …
Big Love versus Big Sex
Well I will get to the post title, but first a funny anecdote: Yesterday I wrote a post talking about how I …
Are you the boss of me?!
So this is my second attempt at writing this post tonight. The first attempt did not quite hit the right tone…and I …
Cultivating delight
I was recently thinking that the question of marital success is completely subjective and dependent on what the marriage partners feel. If …
Dear Mr Huggie-Wuggie…
I want you to know that I always want to be in constant pursuit of you, even after I have hopefully won …
Realising that I must never look down on anybody [Thank you for your prayers]
I’d like to say “Thank you for your prayers” once again to anyone who might be praying for me. The thoughts that …
Thank you once again, yet again to my Prayer Hero!
I would like to say “Thank You” once again to anyone out there who is praying for me, if there is indeed …
New (old) thoughts on love
I’ve been trying to understand marital love for a long time now, and I believe that I have now come to a …
The difference between testing and evaluating a future spouse
When I let people know that I evaluate them, from the way people seem to quietly get upset, I get the feeling …
Back into the fire?
I was talking recently with a dear Aunt. Before I launch into this post proper, I need to make it clear that …
Should you tell your friends when they have been demoted?
I don’t know whether I am just being paranoid, but I am worried that a few people have taken my “How to …
Men, Loneliness, and “checking out” of society
Over the last few months, I have watched a few videos on YouTube (perhaps 5, max) about how men specifically are apparently …
Friendship mission statement or agreement
What response does it trigger in you as a reader when I suggest the idea of a friendship mission statement? To me, …
Why am I like this?!
I have spoken previously on this blog about the BBC’s Pride and Prejudice, starring Colin Firth and Jennifer Ehle. Well I have …
Deleting the rants!
You know, there is something I have been vaguely thinking of for a while now, and just today I experienced deep conviction …
Deconstruction part 3
OK, here I am and I still have not written my deconstruction post! I suspect that this is going to be an …
Still deconstructing!
This post is likely to be hard to read because I’ve literally just thrown down a number of ideas in my mind …
Let us talk about “Deconstruction” or deconverting – initial post
I came across a “deconstruction” video on YouTube a few days ago, posted by a pastor explaining why many people were leaving …
Great idea: Alphabet date nights
I came across this date night idea for alphabet date nights, and I think it is a great idea! 🙂 https://www.huffingtonpost.co.uk/entry/relationship-feeling-stale-give-the-viral-alphabet-date-nights-a-try_uk_64c21faee4b03ad2b896797b
False Impressions…
You know, I hate hinting. So there is this guy, and I genuinely do not know whether he is currently reading this …
Talking about sexual honesty
You know, I was recently remembering someone who I mentioned here a few months ago. A few months ago I wrote a …
One big potential problem in relationships…
I was recently remembering a painful interaction I had with someone – who happened to be female. And that illustrated a big …
True story: Praising God fills my heart with joy!!!
Well this *was* the post I did login to write today! However, I am feeling so tired just now, at past 3 …
What is wrong with evangelical Christians?
This was not the post I logged on to write today. However, I just had a brief scan over a few of …
Finally remembered the point that I was trying to make!
Well I recently wrote about two adorable twin boys that I met a little while ago, and now I have finally remembered …
Also…(posts to write)
These are a few expressions of insecurity I have made on this blog recently, which have greatly surprised me, actually! – Gushing: …
Blog posts to write (while I still remember them!)
Why was I so angry though?! Revisiting a story I have ranted about endlessly on this blog, and asking myself: “Why was …
Love-life balance
SPOILERS: For “The Age of Innocence” 1993 movie, with Daniel Day Lewis, Michelle Pfeiffer, Winona Ryder OK, in this post I am …
Why my future husband *really* does not have to be worried about my past crushes. Really!
Let me start by saying that this post is written unapologetically, and unsubtly for the benefit of a specific person! This is …
Another apology…
There is someone I know who responded to me a little coldly a while back. As I write this, it occurs to …
Apologies to short kings
Many years ago, I wrote something on this blog which I knew was hurtful, and I knew was wrong even as I …
Owing it to myself…
Well I had a blog post all drafted out which I was getting ready to post, but then I was second-guessing myself …
What is Biblism?
In short, Biblism is a word that I have made up, for the attitude or belief that as Christians, our career is …
Thank you for your prayers…again
Once again I would like to thank the mysterious pray-er, if indeed there is anyone out there praying for me. As I …
When loneliness met the lioness
Well the initial point of this post was to talk about loneliness, but then I [the word temporarily escapes me – …
Talking about social media…
You know how people say that social media heightens people feeling of depression? Well ironically, I am extremely active on Facebook, but …
How did they get…from there to here?
Well a few hours ago I wrote a post on this blog, concluding by saying that I wanted to sleep, then read …
Integrity report: Explaining the concept of “mind-lies”, also thoughts on racism, sexual purity
TL; DR: Do not allow unholy or impure thoughts to grow in your mind. Rather, you need to brutally excise them with …
Couples who need to get back together: Finnish PM Sanna Marin and her handsome husband Markus Raikkonen
(Please note, I have not watched the video above, I have linked it as it was the first video I could find …
Speaking of Community…
Well I’ve just recently watched this video on YouTube. I agree with each and every point that this man has made here, …
Clarifying my remarks: to make it clear I have big time for everyone!
You know, not too long ago I wrote about “yes” and “no” people. Actually I updated those names, and cannot now remember …
Talking once again about the physical attraction thing…
You know, I was thinking recently about how I used to be physically attracted to a certain guy. I went on and …
Dear Mr “Someone”, I need to let you know that I have all the time in the world for you!
I did write this in my last post which I have just published, but it is buried towards the end, possibly missable, …
Once again, I’m asking myself: “Is this real?!”
Well literally just yesterday, (or actually the day before now) I posted a post here asking whether some feelings that had descended …
Is this truly real? Or am I making it up?! 🤣🤣🤣
This is one of those posts which I am going to really struggle to articulate. This is because and only because I …
Why there is so much error in the church – apart from all the reasons I have already mentioned!
Well a few days ago I came across this YouTube video and shared it on my Facebook profile: How The Megachurch Destroyed …
Relax girl, God’s got this – if you give it to Him!
Of late, there has been a particular situation in my life which has been somewhat…interesting! I have been praying about it, but …
Talking about disdain…again
Well I was casually minding my own business, and then some thoughts came into my mind about a certain someone whom I …
To blog…or to sleep?!
I have written many times on this blog about how I often blog when I should be asleep. This is because my …
I aspire to this level of maturity. Wow.
So I was doing my daily perusal of YouTube, and I came across this video. I initially clicked on it because it …
Practising compassion towards people I have left in the past, establishing new vital vocabulary and also possibly creating a new subblog…
As I was “working along” today, I was thinking again, reflecting on the fact that many of the people I have encountered …
This week from Reddit: The husband and the laundry hamper
So I have just been reading some AITA relationship posts from Reddit. The particular story that I would like to talk about …
Open letter to my future husband
I just really want to say, I really want this! By the way, this is probably the shortest letter that I will …
Do you really believe? [HUGE RANT]
DEFINITION: When I talk here about “Evangelical Christians”, I am chiefly talking about some people I met at university, at the Christian …
Talking about Tithing, again
Well I just finished watching a sermon on tithing, and I just want to quickly pen down some words. Firstly let me …
When humility finally strikes
[Other posts to write: Practising sexual consent within marriage, also needing to be attuned to my husband. My alternative to “falling in …
Talking candidly about sex, PS
Well I wrote that post, and I was confident as I was writing it. But then overnight I was struck with a …
Dear Church, it is time to give our all to our God
I really should be in bed right now, and I hate being irresponsible with my bedtimes. However I felt this strong compulsion …
Talking candidly about sex
TL:DR; One of my many, many, prayers about sex is that God would empower my husband and me to be candid with …
Crying over what I don’t have
Well I have just recently read a post about the “gender pay gap” when it comes to buying a house. And you …
The Church Conundrum, PS
Well…I’ve just spoken once again to my father tonight. And we discussed going to church and he asked me whether I was …
Crushes versus true emotional compatibility
Whenever I have been hit by a crush, it has always been quite a big thing. I have had 2 humongous crushes …
Frustration!
(Once again, I would like to thank anyone who might have been praying for me. Honestly, I cannot begin to tell you …
New humility mantra
I know that the word “mantra” has connotations specifically from another faith. This can also be called an “affirmation” or a “declaration”. …
The wrongest possible way to be “in the right”!
Before I start, I would once again like to thank anyone who might be praying for me. The rate at which understanding …
Cracking the church conundrum…
So I went to a church for the last two Sundays, on 12th February and then a week later on 19th February. …
Thank you for your prayers! Or, Prayer is my love language
You know, this weekend I had really hoped to spend some time writing a few blog posts. Time has truly run away …
Please disturb me!
Well I have just written a post where once again I referred to the fact that I am ambitious. And I was …
The question is not whether or not it is “true love”. The question is whether or not they are truly worth loving
Apologies this post is a little bit all over the place. It is essentially in brain dump format, rather than the format …
How to say “No” – yet further thoughts
I was just reading through an external article about being assertive. Actually, I just read the first part of the post. Assertiveness …
The problem with men…[or Please rescue me Mr Huggie-Wuggie!]
On this blog, I have often stated, very matter-of-factly, that guys fall for me very easily. I have not been bragging about …
Dealing with feelings of jealousy
TL:DR; We are all made in the image of God, we all have unique potentials and capabilities. I LOVE to see people …
Unconditional love versus selflessness
Over the last 11 months since the war in Ukraine started, I have been posting daily prayer requests to my Facebook account. …
Non-confrontational? (For want of a better title) – or offering pre-emptive explanations
As I have recently written on this blog, I am extremely busy at the moment. lf anything that was an understatement, which …
Condescending
Let me put my hands up and admit that I do this – a lot! In fact, a heck of a lot. …
Dear Mr Potential Huggie-Wuggie, will you please sing for me?!
If as a man you are reading this, you might sometimes be tempted to think that I only care about my own …
A fairly terrible story (Will poss think of better title later)
Well I’ve just read a fairly terrible story which got me thinking…a woman was suddenly ditched by her boyfriend, out of the …
Post Ideas: Fri 6th January 2023
[Sorry, this post has not had even an initial edit. I have been writing it in such a tired state, and now …
Different post thoughts
It is past 3.00 am as I start this post and I so need to be sleeping! However, I have already been …
Dealing with social pressure to spend money
TL;DR: I simply unfriend people Typing as someone who is proud to be a Nigerian, and grateful to be a Christian, I …
There’s something about vanlifers…
So yeah, I’ve been watching lots of vanlife videos over the last few months. I’ve been considering vanlife for myself because of …
Thinking about post-wedding dating
[A reminder to everyone, just in case this post does not make sense: as born again Christians we aim to avoid pre-marital …
The difference between love and lust – again?!
Here I am writing out this post…again! You know, I think I’ve finally got it, after such a long time of trying …
Falling in love [versus working out love]
Please note, I have written a post about something similar to this recently. As I am working through this idea in my …
How I am planning not to fall prey to domestic abuse by the grace of God
To make it clear, the previous post is about domestic abuse, which is what triggered the idea of writing this post. You …
Yet another reason to choose character over “falling madly in love”
Thankfully this particular story turned out to have a happy ending, because she lived to tell the tale. And yet so many …
Back again banging my favourite drum!
So here I am again, reading another article on Reddits Am I the A**hole forum. Short story: the ostensible reason for the …
Looking for a polite way to say “Please kindly keep your unsolicited opinions to yourself!”
This post is not about marriage, but is rather about my expressing a pet peeve of mine, and trying to work out …
Romantic Love is a lie! (Quote me!)
OK I must admit, I’ve got a bit of a bee in my bonnet about this particular subject. I feel as if …
Marriage at cross purposes
[ Or – Undoubtedly one reason why I am still single! – Men could be all feminist on the outside. However, deep …
Money!
I was just thinking about all the money I have made over the years, and comparing that to my bank balance, and …
How life is like a treadmill
What I am trying to communicate in this post: Giving 100% does not mean constantly sprinting, you will get a lot further …
Thinking about “Rationality”
I’ve just been watching some YouTube “text exchange” videos. To be clear, it is not that that is an official name, I’ve …
Let’s talk about the wonders of Heaven!
[BIBLE VERSES TO FOLLOW] Please note that when I use the term “Heaven” in this particular post, I am using it to …
Let’s talk about…making an effort
Off the top of my head, the fact that the guy failed to make an effort is the reason I have ended …
Let’s talk about why the Prosperity Gospel is evil
I’ve recently watched two videos on YouTube about the Prosperity Gospel. And I thought that I would finally start writing a post …
Operation “Give the Man What He Wants”!
TLDR: Baby boy, I promise that as far as God helps me, you’re not going to know what hit you – in …
Regrets about rudeness
You know what? I think it’s time that I finally apologised for my rudeness towards various people. Now this is a hard …
Don’t settle for love ladies! Insist on strong character instead!
Capitalism – how that is our enemy Love – or rather professions of love, are the cheap alternative to character. All a …
What is most important is who they are, rather than how much they love you
I’ve been reading a few more relationship articles, and I have been remembering, again, that someone’s suitability for a relationship is decided …
Sorry for calling Christians rude names, my conclusion is: Be gracious to other Christians, but do not automatically trust them
You know what? For a while now, months if not years, guilt has been eating up at me regarding a post that …
The Queen of Social Awkwardness strikes ***yet*** again!
[Please note: this post is currently so unedited that it is still in “stream of consciousness” mode, ie writing down all the …
Let’s talk about…decision paralysis
“Ponder the path of your feet, And let all your ways be established.” [Also, is a “child-less” life selfish?] You know, one …
But why are people so gullible though?
You know, I think I would naturally fit into the description of a monarchy pragmatist. At heart, I am or should be …
Reddit real life story: Messy husband
Here in this post I will share a real life story that I found on Reddit (Am I the A**hole, where people …
Thoughts on “Religion” and whether or not there is a God
So I’ve just been reading another post on Reddit. I have been mentioning Reddit a lot recently, and there is a good …
Mr Malcolm’s List versus Miss Tosin’s List (SPOILERS)
(Or why I have a list, and you definitely need one too!) Well I have recently taken myself to the cinema and …
Avoiding cheating
Well a few hours ago on Medium I was reading an article about how to spot the signs of cheating. And that …
Confused.me
This is one of those posts that may well be confusing because I am trying to process so many thoughts. Well I …
Confusing but candid post
This is one of those topics which I find complicated to tease out in my mind. However, in terms of marriage it …
Understanding Faith and class and marriage
This post has such a benign sounding title. But please be warned, it is extremely angry, and it is emphatically unflattering about …
Let’s talk about manipulation
When thinking about this post, I was asking myself once again whether I might have manipulative tendencies. The answer to that is, …
How to say “No”, an amendment
I was recently thinking about the topic of manipulation and thinking that I might have to write a post on that. In …
Tosin’s definitely, definitely not superficial list of period drama actors
This is one of those dubious posts that I sometimes write where my sensible mind is thinking “Tosin, really?!” So there are …
Thinking about romance writing
Well, as I recently related on Facebook, I have recently come across another sweet and lovely true life love story, which I …
Let’s talk about…love-bombing
I’m SO tired just now! I’m going to try to get the points of this post down as quickly as possible, then…I’m …
Actually, I’m a low-tempo kinda person
How humorous it is that out of all the blog posts I’ve been mentally drafting, this one should win – all the …
Ask yourself: what is it that you want to be successful at?
Ah, relationship goals. As far as I know, that was not really a phrase back then, as in it was not the …
How to say “No” – that is, how ***I*** truly learned to say “No”
Too long, didn’t read: When you learn to identify true friends in your life, then suddenly saying “No” to everyone else becomes …
Grumbling, moi?!
You know what, I have been deeply shaken by the war in Ukraine. I have no end of admiration for President Volodymyr …
Remembering the past
I’ve just been viewing Facebook pictures of a dear couple from church. Does anyone recognise what I am about to describe? Although …
Thinking about…friendships
So yeah, something “interesting” happened in one of my friendships. I had a big argument with someone, and here a few months …
Merry Christmas 2021
This is the cutest presentation of the Christian Gospel I have ever seen: this video clip has really made my Christmas this …
Choosing to be Soulmates – or what is love, actually?
I think that I have recently realised something that is extremely important – no, desperately important about love. That is this: that …
Cheesy Christmas movie warrants a long overdue blog post!
OK so here’s the thing! I have not posted on this blog in a long time! Actually the last post I wrote …
Completely out of character?
Yeah, I have not posted on here in ages! On the other hand, I completed my “Nidhra and Pradha” story, which is …
Quickpost: The importance of family background
OK, I have not posted here for almost two months. I have been constantly thinking of ideas though. I just have not …
QUICKPOST: Thought-provoking external post: An Indian-American divorce
https://www.elle.com/culture/movies-tv/a35865843/indian-matchmaking-indian-divorce/?utm_source=pocket-newtab-global-en-GB I’ve just read this though-provoking post about the break-up of a marriage, written by the wife, where both spouses happen to …
QUICKPOST: Why do people (men) say that men are more logical than women?!
OK, this is a sincere question, which I am going to try to answer in this post myself: I sincerely do not …
QUICKPOST: Why I’m secretly dreaming of a “lazy” husband
If you are a man, and a potential romantic interaction between us had progressed to the point where we were now actively …
QUICKPOST: On the Meghan Markle Malarkey and talkin’ bout tall guys
Oh wow, I have not written here for almost a month (barring a post which I decided to make private). A very …
But surely, I’m better than *nothing*!
Have you ever been in a situation with someone….who refuses to get the message, that you are not interested in building any …
What happiness means to me
Time for one of those spontaneous posts, methinks! I have just been reading a few posts on the BBC site about what …
Let’s talk yet again about alcohol!
Note to readers: Please bear with me, this post is very much in the cut and paste stage, where I am just …
External Post: “How my teenage friendships impacted my adult romantic relationships”
Of late I have often suspected that my youthful weakness in friendships might contribute to my adult confusion in romantic relationships. And …
External Post: I Had a Damned Good Reason for Leaving My Perfect Husband
This tender but sad love story excellently demonstrates why you need to be honest with yourself and your spouse before getting married …
Thinking of instability, thanking for instability
So a few hours ago on Christmas day, here I was sitting at my desk, wanting to type out a festive post. …
Fed up of cooking?
SUPER SPONTANEOUS! BIG DISCLAIMER: Apart from the “baked camembert”, I’ve not actually tried any of the recipes I’ve linked to on this …
Compatibility and Commitment
You know, I’ve been kinda obsessed with character for a long time on this blog! However I have just read an article …
Marrying my best friend versus speaking the soulmate language
This is yet another one of those posts that occurred to me late at night… Firstly, I realised that what I have …
Pursuing Christlikeness is Everything. Really
[I was originally going to call this post “Character is King.” Well after writing it, I will amend that to this: “Character …
Forgiveness: The Difference between “Forgiveness” and “Forgiveness”
Apologies, this post might be somewhat triggering for domestic violence. Like “Infatuation”, Forgiveness is a topic I have tried to write about …
Radical Commitment to Christ?!
OK Christians, please be honest here! What is the first thing that goes through your mind when I suggest a radical commitment …
Let’s talk more about community!
So I’m just sitting here thinking/praying “Lord, I’m lonely! And I really don’t know how to deal with it!” In a way …
Tosin, The No-Drama Queen!
Apologies, this post is a bit rambly, I’ve just literally poured out everything on my mind! OK, I’ve just literally been up …
What Community means to me…
Well, it really has been a while! I was thinking overnight about how deeply my heart beats for community. Actually prior to …
Spontaneous post: And so it finally happened…
…that my long-suffering parents finally decided to step up their respective games of “Let’s get Tosin married!” For the first time really, …
Shyness in crushes and reasons for attraction
So here I am writing a somewhat ill-advised late night post. A while ago I established that for myself it was a …
What “Unconditional Love” truly means for a Christian
This is a post that I have been trying to write for a very long time, but I’ve been seriously struggling with …
My values
These are my values that I believe people need to be aware of before reading this blog. 1. Firstly I am a …
How to read this blog: Last updated 29 Dec 2019
Trying to work out a suitable and user-friendly way of navigating this blog has been possibly the biggest challenge I have faced …
Why you should read this blog! Last Updated 28th Dec 2019
PLEASE NOTE: This post is an extremely important post. However the thoughts are on it are expressed a little haphazardly just now. …
Tosin’s Decluttering (Sub)Blog – Post 1
Man, I was so determined to write a post today! I was thinking something “Huggie-Wuggie”, but nothing seemed to really click – …
Finally getting to blog!
Wow, my last post on this blog was even longer ago than I realised! Man, how I have itched to publish a …
Talking about…Josh H
Josh H is one of the biggest inspirations behind this blog. His book “I Kissed Dating Goodbye” has deeply (deeply!) influenced my …
I’m back!
So here I am back on Huggie-Wuggie. To be honest I’ve got a few big decisions to make about how to move …
Offlining!
I’m going to be taking a break from posting on this blog for the whole month of September, and possibly also the …
Eureka! I have found it!!!
(Or rather, God has given it to me!!! No, not a husband!!!!) As I was literally just creating my previous post here, …
