Originally published 5th May 2013
This is an issue that I have greatly struggled with – it is possibly the single biggest issue that I have struggled to understand regarding marriage over the years (or it may be joint first, tied with the question of “how do I know my husband will remain excellent?” ). No-one will ever persuade me that it is wrong to be aware of my own needs in marriage – this blog is built entirely on that premise that it is good and right for me to consider my own needs. This is because, struggling with the question for so long, but not knowing the answer, I have erred “safely” on the side of my own self-concern.
Now I feel as if I have a valid and powerful answer to the issue. I wonder what changes I would make if I went back and reassessed my existing posts from this new understanding?
|Believe it or not, pestering God, or “twisting His arm”, as some Christians like to put it, is a totally Biblical and legitimate way of thinking about prayer. This is the pragmatic advice that Jesus Himself gives us in Luke 18 verses 1-8, that we should pester God like a desperate widow pestered a reluctant judge for justice against her enemies – until the judge finally got fed up and acted in her favour.
I’m thinking that if your spouse married you in the first place, that indicates that they are not totally immune to you (although I appreciate that the dynamics of marriage can change this greatly). However, even if they are now in a place where they are immune to your biggest efforts, then try as hard as they might, they cannot remain immune to God!
1 Corinthians 13v5-6:
1 Corinthians 13v7-8:
8 Love never fails.